Thinking about Dating? Here are Some Pointers!

Starting to date can be exciting and intimidating all at the same time. It's natural to feel anxious about putting yourself out there and wondering if you'll meet someone who is right for you. However, by taking some practical steps and staying focused on your goals, you can ease your nerves and make the most out of your dating experience. In this blog post, we'll provide some tips on how to start dating, how to not feel anxious, and how to make good decisions about who to date.

Determine your dating goals

Before you start dating, it's important to understand what you're looking for in a relationship. Are you looking for a life partner? Knowing what you're looking for can help you avoid wasting time on dates that aren't a good match for you. It can also help you to communicate your intentions clearly to potential partners.

Treat yourself with respect

It's important to feel confident and good about yourself when you start dating. Take care of yourself by eating well, exercising regularly, and doing activities that you enjoy. When you feel good about yourself, it shows in your interactions with others, and you'll be more likely to attract positive attention.

Try online dating

Online dating can be a great way to meet new people and broaden your dating pool. There are many different dating apps and websites to choose from, so take some time to research and find one that feels right for you. Be honest and clear about your intentions when creating your profile, and don't be afraid to be yourself.

Don’t rush the process

It's important to take things at a pace that feels comfortable for you. Don't feel pressured to rush into a relationship or to move too quickly physically. Take the time to get to know someone and build a connection before taking things to the next level.

Trust your instincts

If something doesn't feel right, trust your instincts. Don't feel obligated to go on a second date if you didn't enjoy the first one or if you feel uncomfortable. It's important to prioritize your own feelings and needs, and not to settle for less than what you're looking for in a relationship.

Most importantly, make sure that you’d be happy to date you!

When dating, we often focus on what characteristics and behaviours that we want to find in another person. However, often, we don’t think about whether what we’re truly happy with what we bring to the table in a relationship and we can often overlook issues within ourselves that stop us from forming positive, healthy relationships. Ask yourself, would I be happy to date myself? This can be a confronting question and it requires some self-reflection and honesty. Here are some things to consider:

Communication Skills

Are you able to express your thoughts and feelings clearly and respectfully? Good communication is a key component of any healthy relationship, so it's important to be able to communicate effectively with your partner.

Emotional Intelligence

Do you have a good sense of your own emotions and can you manage them effectively? Can you also be empathetic and understanding of your partner's emotions? Emotional intelligence is crucial in any relationship, as it helps you to navigate challenges and support each other.

Self-Awareness

Do you have a good sense of who you are, what you want, and what you need in a relationship? Self-awareness is important because it helps you to communicate your needs and boundaries, and it also helps you to make better decisions in your relationships.

Respect

Do you treat your partners with respect and kindness? Are you able to respect their boundaries and wishes? Treating your partner with respect is a non-negotiable part of any healthy relationship.

Personal Growth

Are you willing to learn and grow with your partner? A willingness to learn, grow and adapt is important in any relationship, as it helps to keep the relationship healthy and strong.

Remember, no one is perfect, and we all have areas where we can improve. Being a good person to date is just as important as finding someone who you feel you’d like to date. It is not about being flawless, but rather about being self-aware, empathetic, and willing to work on yourself and your relationship.

Starting to date can be an exciting and nerve-wracking experience but can be worth it to find someone who is a good match for you. Remember to be patient and stay true to yourself, and you'll be on your way to a successful dating journey.

Contact me today to find out how you can date successfully so that you can be the best version of yourself and find your perfect match!